I've had the experience of understanding feedback loops perfectly well but still feeling inclined to blame a "big bad" for most ills. I had trouble developing an ethical basis for my actions because I swing across the political aisle very readily based on utilitarian arguments, but simultaneously feel tons of empathy for others and thus want to be in collaboration with everyone I meet. Thus I swept through the gamut of political thought, radical in various ways at various times, moderate at others.

Working through that meant gaining a better distinction of the self from the system. I explicitly use a virtue ethics mode for my immediate surroundings and everyday behaviors(i behave in the way in which i feel the least guilt), and then a utilitarian mode when I have to make a decision affecting potentially large groups(e.g. my voting decisions tend to be less selfish and more model-based). This keeps my priorities healthy because it stops me from pointing to an inappropriate "scale" of thinking for the situation.