I can't provide constructive feedback. I just don't know how. Most of my attempts have failed, been counter productive, or worse. I can't think of an instance that I didn't later regret. (Which might be some kind of negative selection bias.)
I think maybe role playing would help. Like taking improv classes.
I had this notion while reading Voss' "Never Split the Difference". It's about using the latest hostage negotiation techniques in normal life. Like when asking for a salary increase. Entering a negotiation cold (no practice) is doomed to fail.
Expecting someone (eg yourself) to be good at giving constructive feedback without training and practice is kinda silly.
Back when I had to do a lot of public speaking, I hired people to help me. Stuff like stump speeches, practice debates, endorsement interviews. They recorded grilling me and then we'd review the tape. Hard but helpful. I wasn't ever very good, but they helped me be not terrible.
I think maybe role playing would help. Like taking improv classes.
I had this notion while reading Voss' "Never Split the Difference". It's about using the latest hostage negotiation techniques in normal life. Like when asking for a salary increase. Entering a negotiation cold (no practice) is doomed to fail.
Expecting someone (eg yourself) to be good at giving constructive feedback without training and practice is kinda silly.
Back when I had to do a lot of public speaking, I hired people to help me. Stuff like stump speeches, practice debates, endorsement interviews. They recorded grilling me and then we'd review the tape. Hard but helpful. I wasn't ever very good, but they helped me be not terrible.