> having to close a PR because I simply don’t want to merge it.
It helps to be upfront about it. For most of the reasonably popular stuff I put up, I clearly say something like “if you have a small change, it’s probably best to talk to me instead of submitting a PR because I’ll just do it faster without the tiresome back-and-forth review dance; if you have a big change or a major feature, definitely run it though me first, and unfortunately I’ll likely say no in most cases” in CONTRIBUTING.md or the developer section of the website.
Of course, lots of people don’t read... But at least I feel a lot better closing big PRs I’ll never get to.
It helps to be upfront about it. For most of the reasonably popular stuff I put up, I clearly say something like “if you have a small change, it’s probably best to talk to me instead of submitting a PR because I’ll just do it faster without the tiresome back-and-forth review dance; if you have a big change or a major feature, definitely run it though me first, and unfortunately I’ll likely say no in most cases” in CONTRIBUTING.md or the developer section of the website.
Of course, lots of people don’t read... But at least I feel a lot better closing big PRs I’ll never get to.