Seriously, don't sweat this. While your logic is completely valid, one thing I've learned in personal relationships is that logic is, in-and-of-itself, rather useless in determining relationship success.
Unless you're a robot, people come with things like emotions and feelings and all kinds of other baggage that are impervious to logic. Not just your partner, but yourself. And you usually don't realize it until later.
Your expectations about spending time with someone who shares your passion isn't unrealistic at all. But in the end, a relationship is about people, not your passion. You may find a partner because of your passion, but he/she will stick around because of who you are -- not what you do.
Finding people who share your passions is relatively easy. We advertise them on our sleeves. There are, literally, catalogs and clubs and conferences and books and lecture circuits and cruises devoted to any given pastime, from Ethiopian funk music of the 1970s to small-scale software companies focused on order tracking.
Finding a romantic partner or a spouse is a wholly different problem which generally plays out on a completely different level.
Seriously, don't sweat this. While your logic is completely valid, one thing I've learned in personal relationships is that logic is, in-and-of-itself, rather useless in determining relationship success.
Unless you're a robot, people come with things like emotions and feelings and all kinds of other baggage that are impervious to logic. Not just your partner, but yourself. And you usually don't realize it until later.
Your expectations about spending time with someone who shares your passion isn't unrealistic at all. But in the end, a relationship is about people, not your passion. You may find a partner because of your passion, but he/she will stick around because of who you are -- not what you do.